Why get married ah?

I had a conversation with a friend while I was driving and we started talking about our lives. I, am one who is about to get married. She, on the other hand had her marriage nearly on the brink of divorce but it's working out very well now - thank God, thank friends around, thanks to their willingness to work things out also.

We both came to a common topic - Why should one get married? We can always live alone. God has made us whole and complete. So why should we get married? She shared that sometimes, she wonders why she had to go through the 'pain' of marriage'. In a marriage, there are so so so many things to work on - differences in perspectives & principles, adjustment, getting bored of each other, arguments and the list can really go on and on and on. After all the sighing, she shared that as much as she doesn't need a husband, her children need a father. Many have said that the best gift for a man to give his children is to love their mother. Likewise, it is also vice versa - the best gift for a woman to give her children is to love their father.

As we conversed further, we felt strongly that love as a feeling will fade and when challenges come along the way, the marriage will be tested. Thus, very often, people end up feeling that marriage is a huge commitment.

So, back to the question - Since God has already made us whole and complete, why do we need a lifetime partner? Our answer during the conversation - No right or wrong - is that when we are single, we are not committed to someone per se. We live according to our own schedule, our own needs, wants. Basically, comfort zone. When a lifetime partner comes along the way, we feel loved, we want to stay in the relationship but by doing that, our comfort zone can get shaken cause we no longer live according to our own schedule. Yupz, scary and tiring as it may sound, when comfort zone is shaken, there is opportunity for growth. So, ultimately, as a couple, we are covenanted in commitment to each other to help one another grow in the Lord and grow as a person.

I am not married yet. But I am learning already. Kudos to all married couples!