Wednesday, February 24, 2010

Accommodating and Compromising

It has been a month of marriage life for me. So far, it has been a wonderful experience being married. I thought I just want to jot this good-times-moment down so that when arguments happen, I can look back on the good times that we had.

To be fair, in the entire month, I only had 2 weeks of the real-world, being away for honeymoon for the first 2 weeks. Going away for honeymoon immediately was pretty helpful we felt. It helped us adjust to living together as a couple first (before I started staying with Geo's parents). It gave us ample time to talk about some standards and values we share. Although it was a little surreal (living in hotel and away from homeland), it was a pretty fruitful experience.

In the 2 weeks, I found that my in-laws love language is Acts of Service. They love by serving. They hardly talk, although I found a few good occasion to chat. Last week while cooking together with my father in law, I spoke of preserved beancurd (tao-lu) and how much I love it with porridge and how much I love porridge. Next day, my mother in law, in her silent ways, cooked porridge for me. My parents in law wakes up very early daily and will prepare breakfast.

I constant remind myself that as much as I have to adjust to living with my husband and in-laws, I cannot cannot forget that my in-laws are also adjusting to living with me. Compromising and accommodating is something so crucial. Now, I eat more healthily because of a value my other half and his parents hold - breakfast every morning. Usually, I don't have my breakfast (because I always wake up just in time for a bath and off to work I go). Now, I learn to wake up earlier because my PIL has already prepared breakfast for us.

I thank God for in-laws who allow me into their lives (to cook, to do household chores, to enter their room) yet still respect my private space whenever I need to.

Living with Geo has been amazing. He has such great capacity to tolerate and accommodate to my nonsense. Between us, I am the more picky one.
Our differences can be quite vast when it comes to living, honestly. He is the can-live-with-things & careless type of guy. I am the need-things-to-be-in-their-proper-place & prim-and-proper type of girl. I need things to be organized. It may be messy but I still need organization. Last week, we had a short cold war triggered by a missing bedsheet (laugh! but yes, missing bedsheet!). Prior to that, there were little occurrences of misplacement. Finally the missing bedsheet blew me off and I decided not to talk. After 30 mins (or so), I decided to talk things out. Thankfully, Geo's a very good listener and very open to accommodating and learning my way of living so we had a good talk.

Well, this is but just one month. I am enjoying every minute of it. Let's see how things go when work starts for me next Monday. :)

Wednesday, February 17, 2010

Wedding

Hi there all, I am finally back from honeymoon and back to the blogging world!

Wedding was on 30 January. Today's already the 18 February and to be honest, I am still on Cloud Nine, overwhelmed by all the blessings Geo & I had received and is still receiving.

Praise God for his healing powers! Two days before the wedding, I was so sick in my nose. I kept sneezing and it really got worse just the night before the wedding! I couldn't get to sleep either. It was such a tough night. By the time I caught a proper sleep, it was already about 5am. Thank God there is no tradition that says I have to leave before the sunrise so I was able to get at least 2 hours of sleep. Make up artist came at 7:05am. I woke up at 6:55am. Hee... :) I downed a glass of hot water, had Milo and biscuit, 2 Panadols, prayed for and I was absolutely cleared from all sneezing till the entire day was over!

Praise God for the more-than-perfect weather. It was not THAT hot. Neither did it rain! Geo & I were very worried about the day being scorching. We got Ramesh (the person in charge of The Bark Cafe) to blast all fans. We were so worried that we decided to get a tentage. And yes, whilst I am on the topic of tentage, we were also blessed with great discount!

Praise God for all who turned up and didn't turn up. The blessings and wishes we received were heartfelt. You know, I was in awe at the monetary blessings we received that I felt tears welling in my eyes. It was incredible and amazing.

Thank God for all who has a hand in helping out with the wedding. When I approached them for help, they volunteered their own kids too! I was so touched when the parents went shopping for Orange color clothing for their kids too! I know I know... They told me "It's ok! Can always wear for Chinese New Year la..." But... it's not just ok.. The effort put in, amidst of their busy schedule, to look all over for a color that wasn't the IN color was amazing. Thanks! Not forgetting my sisters too... I got 3 last minute sisters who went all the way out to search for Orange dresses... Thanks my dear girls. You girls are wonderful and such a blessing to have.

Thank God for my immediate and extended family. Your presence had brightened up my day. You are the people whom I had grown up with. People who has seen the better and worst side of me. Seen me when I was naked with diapers. Seen me when I was defiant and ran away. Thank you all for loving me the way I am and nurturing me to be who I am now.

Thank God for warm in-laws and extended in-laws. Even before I was married, they had treated me as if I was one of them. Parents, aunts, uncles all alike. Thank you for your acceptance & embrace.

Back to the wedding day, other than the weather, I was surprised that I wasn't at all nervous. It really does help by not inviting everybody on my phone's list. Everyone whom I invited were friends, colleagues and buddys who were close to me. So instead of feeling nervous, I was having a GREAT time! My pastor commented that they rarely see bride walking around before the walk in. In my perspective, I just wanna have fun and mingle. I am ready to break all traditions. The only down side of me walking around was my tired feet at the end of the day. I was so used to wearing flats. My heels that day was 4 inch high! Gosh! I suddenly felt taller - and more tired!

The next day, Geo & I went for our church service with swollen eyes. Hee.. Tired la.. Following day, we made our way for our honeymoon to Langkawi and Penang. I will blog about our honeymoon trip next time.



Done for the day!